So, you’re getting married—congratulations! You’re knee-deep in cake tastings, seating charts, and possibly wondering whether this whole “forever” thing is really going to work out. Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Every couple (yes, even the fairy-tale ones) wonders if they’re truly set up for the long haul.
The good news? There are signs—real, tangible, pre-wedding indicators—that can reveal whether your future together is built on a rock-solid foundation or a house of cards. Jen Glantz, a professional bridesmaid who’s been part of over 125 weddings (yes, really), has seen it all—and she’s spilled the secrets.
These aren’t magical love spells or destiny charts. These are real, research-backed behaviors and dynamics that show you and your partner have what it takes to go the distance. So before you walk down the aisle, let’s take a look at the green flags waving in your relationship.
1. You Communicate Like Champs
Whether it’s money, kids, in-laws, or who takes out the trash—if you can talk through it without turning into a human volcano, you’re golden. Good communication before the wedding sets the tone for everything after.
Bonus points: 70% of couples who talked finances before tying the knot felt way more confident in their relationship.
2. You’re a Tag-Team When It Comes to Stress
Wedding planning can be a minefield of seating drama and unexpected expenses. But if you’re laughing through the chaos and sharing the load like a dream team, you’re already showing serious staying power.
3. Your Values Are Aligned
You don’t need to agree on every movie or pizza topping—but when it comes to trust, respect, and life goals, you’re on the same page. That’s not just sweet—it’s strategic.
4. You Dream Together
Couples who talk about the future (without getting queasy) build a roadmap for their lives—and travel it together. Whether it’s dream vacations, baby names, or business plans, the act of visioning together keeps you connected and evolving.
5. You Can Plan a Wedding Without World War III
If you can survive floral arrangements, family opinions, and guest lists without becoming mortal enemies, you’re ahead of the game. Drama-free wedding planning is a sign of emotional maturity—and serious couple superpowers.
6. You Respect Each Other’s Weirdness
Mutual respect is everything. You let each other be weird, independent, ambitious, lazy-on-Sundays—whatever makes you you. And you love each other more for it. That kind of unconditional support is relationship gold.
7. You Handle Conflict Without Throwing Plates
You don’t run from hard conversations—and you don’t weaponize “fine.” You’re building a toolkit of trust, empathy, and compromise that’ll serve you long after the honeymoon.
8. Your Circle Cheers You On
You’ve got hype squads. Whether it’s your best friend, a sibling, or your grandma who keeps slipping love advice into your DMs—your support system makes love feel like a team sport, not a solo mission.
9. You Know When to Bend
Being right all the time is overrated. You both know when to speak up and when to let it go (yes, even if the towels should be folded in thirds). Flexibility is one of the sexiest, least talked-about relationship skills.
10. You Actually Like Spending Time Together
It sounds obvious—but it’s often overlooked. If you’re genuinely excited to be with each other at the end of the day (and not just because you’re legally obligated), that’s a huge deal. Even couples who prioritize their wedding night tend to report stronger bonds. Who knew?
Marriage isn’t some cosmic gamble—it’s a choice you make every day. And if you’re already checking off most of these pre-wedding green flags, you’re not just ready to get married—you’re ready to thrive.
So go ahead: pop the champagne, savor the cake, and slow dance like nobody’s watching. You’re not just planning a wedding—you’re building something beautiful, bold, and deeply yours.
And if the seating chart still makes you want to cry? That’s normal too. You’ve got this.